Showing posts with label Cyberbullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cyberbullying. Show all posts

Thursday, January 21, 2016

How to handle rumors about yourself that are not true

You can walk into the local cafe up the street and overhear a woman talking on her cell phone about the latest local loadie as you stand in line at your local grocery store listening to the two men argue over why an unidentified third party told them both a different story. At the end of the day, these are rumors.

Handling rumors is rather easy, but the hard part to accept is that not everyone is going to be believe you. Even after you have proved yourself from every level of your being, some people are still going to question the factuality of whether or not you are telling the truth.

So, how do you handle rumors about yourself that are not true?

You can a.) sit at home in front of the computer crying your eyes out, feeling sorry for yourself because of a lie a spiteful person created or you can b.) bring it up once, attempt to prove yourself by responding to the rumor, and simply let it go.

What would I do? - It's simple; I would simply bring it up once, respond to it, and simply let it go. I would either approach the person who created it or if it's something created using the internet; I would address it via blog and depending on the person or group who created it, I would simply ignore it. The worst thing you can do is feel sorry for yourself and get upset over someone's ignorance.

Think of it like this, those individuals who create rumors are lying to themselves and in denial of something. They will do what they can to devalue a person because they believe it can control the vast majority of status quo society's opinion. But the reality is, it is really just a waste of time and effort on their part. No one will believe them, especially if their weak character is evident.

There are quite a few rumors that I have had to endure from past to present and although I have set the record straight, it seems as if some people forget it and still continue to speculate and ignore my attempts to address them. I have come to the conclusion that lies created by third parties are nothing more than a representation of the person's weak decorum and actual persona. The rumors do not define me; however, it is clear they define the individual who created the rumor.

Dealing with rumors can be tough, but only if you allow them to be. Remember, there is no one in the world that knows you more than yourself. If you are going to allow another's lies about you, define you and who you are as a person let alone what you stand for, you are only hurting yourself. Look at the source. Treat those rumors as nothing, as they come from nothing because once you start allowing "nothing" to affect you and your life, you become them and that is definitely not a place you want to be.

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

How To Cope With A Jealous Bully

People are really fascinating and when I think of everyone being as unique as their personality, I think without some jealousy and hatred, the world would be extremely boring.

So, how do you cope with a jealous bully? You simply don't think of them and if you do, you stop thinking about them. How can you stop thinking about them? It's simple. You come up with ideas on how to better your own future, you look at your present life, and you set both short-term and long-term goals for yourself. Then, you look back at what you have accomplished.

Another great way to cope with a jealous bully is to remind yourself that they are talking about you. When I think of my haters, I think that I am doing something right because without haters, I know I am not doing my job correctly. Remind yourself that with virtually no effort whatsoever, you are making them go crazy over you.

Think of your jealous bully as a stalker. As they attempt to devalue you and spread lies, just remember that you are making no effort for them to do that. Think of them as a rabid fan, a fan that is negative and manifested with you, looking for attention. After all, lovers make a person rich, but haters make a person famous.

If you feel entitled to exercise the first amendment, it is important to recognize that giving them attention gives them ammo which is why if you do decide to do this, you want to blog only once about the person/people bullying you and then leave it at that. Remember your jealous bully does not need your attention more than once, let alone at all.

You can choose to think about it, but then you should realize that when you do, you aren't going nowhere with them because no matter what you say or what you do, they are still going to continue. You can't please the world, as not everyone will love you, but if you love yourself you will never even give your jealous bully a second thought.

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Stop Cyberbullying Day - Friday, March 30th 2012

Back in 2007, Andy Carvin posted a blog encouraging other people to not only celebrate March 30th as "Stop Cyberbullying Day" but to enforce it, as a recognized problematic issue in the world today. He stated several examples as to why it was important, including his example about Kathy Sierra, a programming instructor and game developer from California. Kathy is a victim of cyberbullying. She is a nice person, but she is quite vulnerable, as she let them intimidate her so bad, she didn't even leave her house. Now, that is just emotionally disgusting if you ask me. That people are so spiteful and hateful, that they threatened a woman for having a voice. Technology is a world that is interconnected through a machine and various software. It is a whole new world that allows you to connect with people without traveling to them. You don't use all of your senses, so therefore; it is not life. A lot of people abuse technology on various wavelengths and think it is "cool" to knock a person down because being an incognito yet coward cretin gives them pride within themselves because after all, they have no real goals and absolutely zero accomplishments.

I can honestly say that I am a current victim of cyberbullying. If I am not posting a picture of myself, receiving hate messages, as a result, I am receiving numerous death threats for absolutely no reason at all. My guess is some people feel affected by my freedom of speech and ability to project my liberty onto my readers. I understand that not everyone thinks on my wavelength, but I do not believe I should be cyberbullied simply because I wrote something you disagree with. Most of the messages are insanely irrational that I have received and currently do receive, so I just laugh for a second and delete them. Interesting how I, Sarah Afshar, with virtually no effort, whatsoever have managed to rattle their cage to an extent that they feel the need to bully, intimidate, and harass me. Can we say fragile psyche?

It is very obvious why people feel the need to cyberbully other people. They garner a sense of pride (which I have stated previously) because all of the foibles that currently define them as people exceed their strengths. Not to say that they do not have strengths, but because their weaknesses exceed them, it destroys their full potential. Ad hominem and other slander ad nauseum is banal and really can't hurt a person who is secure. The reality is cyberbullies have no real accomplishments. The goals they have set for themselves are not practical, even though most convince themselves that they are. Cyberbullies like the feeling of being liberated because they have convinced themselves that their words can control another person's psyche and/or bring them down to what they assume would hurt that person. Cyberbullies tend to feel isolated because they, themselves are bullied. It is almost like a pattern and it continues because most of these individuals haven't discovered their full potential and that, my friends, is a very sad thing.

I could go on and on and possibly write (and as sad as it may sound) a 300 page dissertation about this subject not only because I am a victim myself and have been for years prior (bullying, etc) but because I have managed to get into the heads of these people, which is a great thing. Considering it's a dopamine diversion.

Now to you cyberbullies that think you are "winning", you're not. Let’s face it, I don't have to physically fight you, especially when life's already doing a phenomenal job already kicking your (__!__) and more than I ever could in the first place. All I have to do is consistently show you why I own you on an intellectual level, just as I have been doing, and just as I'll always do. So keep playing the games, spreading lies, and cyberbullying me because what goes around, comes around, and springs into action. Those nasty remarks you make about me do not define me, however; it is very clear that they define you. No matter how much time and effort you put into trying to knock me down, I remain standing and guess what? No matter what your friends tell you, the good is not in your favor by the vast majority of status quo society. And it's for that reason that I have to plead the 5th and maintain my silence regarding your personal flaws, foibles, and the whole cornucopia of your own shortcomings that currently define you. The moment you mentioned my name, as the moment you mention my name proves that I am already the winner.

Let's celebrate Stop Cyberbullying Day on Friday, March 30th 2012.

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Wednesday, March 28, 2007

ExoticSarah1980

Well, it looks like I am being impersonated. Why? I have no idea, but this looks like the first time I actually have someone using my identity and pretending to be me. At least to my knowledge. When I took the initiative to write to this person, they actually had the audacity to block me. I reported them for abuse. I am not sure if this is someone I know personally or just someone trying to make a joke and/or mockery of me, but it isn't funny. In fact, it is indirect cyberbullying (maybe even cyberstalking) and really pathetic. 

You will not believe this, but I saw a comment on Myspace bashing some guy and making comments about my lips. This is from the actual fake profile. What makes matters worse is that I saw the actual profile online as they were posting in the forums (it showed the active alert sign and said they were online). Based on the language, it sounds like someone who is uneducated and they are really making me look bad. The truncation looks like the person impersonating me is some attention starved low life.

I am a 26 year old woman who works two jobs. I have a full-time office job which I work during the day in Athens, GA and in the evening, I work at the Georgia Square Mall at a kiosk. I live with my pets and live across from the Wiggly Field (dog park) in Athens. I am really not that interesting for you to steal my identity. I am not a celebrity. I don't get it. Perhaps I won't ever "get it" as I cannot relate to the person doing it. And if you are actually reading this post (which I will assume you are) grow up.

What I find funny about it is they are using pictures of me from 2004. I don't even think I have those pictures on my computer anymore. I don't know whether to laugh and find this as a form of flattery or cry at the fact that some psycho is literally using my identity and I have no idea what they are doing, while using my name and image. I saw they created a few weird pages too while linking back to this one, so they definitely are reading this blog, including this blog post. I have contacted all platforms via email and am waiting on a response from them.

I have used ExoticSarah before, but not ExoticSarah1980. They are literally linking to my blog it looks like also, attempting to make it look like it is me which I previously addressed in the paragraph above. I've reported the profiles for abuse and impersonation/identity theft, so hopefully they are deleted and as I said previously have contacted the platforms directly by email. If nothing is done, I will definitely look into contacting some sort of litigator and getting everything they are posting taken down. If you see anything, please report them and send them links to this blog so I can contact them.

The whole thing is bizarre.