Friday, March 16, 2012

I just realized that I have NOT dated anyone older than me...

...for the past 10 years nor have I expressed interest in dating anyone older. This may come as a shock to some of you, perhaps all of you, but for the past 10 years, I haven't dated anyone older than me at all. Can you believe it? Not even a month older, not even a day a day older. I don't know how content I feel sharing this information to the world (or you, my readers), but why hide it? We are all human afterall. In all honesty, all of the men that I have dated have been younger. Even if it is by a month or two, I have not dated anyone older than me for a decade.

Now I have come to grasp the idea that perhaps this may all be coincidental, however; separating fact from fiction, I tend to think that growing up as an extraverted nerd, who didn't experience the dating scene until later on could possibly be why I find myself attracted to younger men more than older men. I think this is why I tend to relate more to younger men. Then, I started to suddenly grasp the distinction that maybe, just maybe I am meeting the wrong guys and perhaps the right one is an older man?

I am very guilty of overanalyzing just about every situation that I am in. In fact, I always find myself entertaining the notion that there are holes in almost every situation. Although, this type of thinking is critical and does possess several weaknesses, as a result, it does have it's strengths, which in theory is something to value. If something is broke, you can fix it earlier, so there are not discrepancies later on. Perhaps this is why I am so picky when it comes to dating.

Most of the men that I have dated (keyword "most" hence why not "all") did not come with red flags (whether it be more baggage than the Chicago airport or more issues than Newsweek magazine). The less sum (which are in the minority and less percentile) of the men that I have dated in the past did have red flags, which is why I cut strings after recognizing such. I am a good hearted person who thinks outside of the box and sometimes my thoughts are so optimistic that they are impractical. I have to admit that I am willing to rise above it and work out problems, as long as those problems can be worked out, however; if I discover something that can't be fixed, usually that is when I say goodbye.

So, in short, I must say that despite not dating someone older than me for the past 10 years, I am very content. In fact, I am happy. I don't see this as an issue simply because I don't object to dating an older man. Just because I haven't expressed any interest, does not mean that I object. In fact, I am open to dating an older man, just as long as he is established and represents the type of man that I am looking for (Classy, Successful, Attractive, Independent, Sophisticated, Intelligent, STD Free, Drug Free, Worldly, Ambitious, Culturally Connected, Athletic, Non-Smoker, No Drama, No Baggage, etc).

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think you are gorgeous and would love to date you.

Anonymous said...

I don't think age has anything to do with it. I think it is because you are finally living your life and you relate to men who are not experienced like older men.

Mamad said...

Wasn't that UFC fighter that you dated older? He looks a lot older than you.

Anonymous said...

You should be open to dating any type of a man, as long as that man fits the profile of what you're looking for.

Anonymous said...

What age do you go for?