Thursday, January 21, 2016

StoryTime: My boyfriend is psychic

A psychic is simply an individual who has both supernatural and paranormal abilities. These abilities vary and can be anything from seeing spirits and the after life to even the future. Often times, psychics are clairvoyants and have the ability to use their minds to see things that have happened, are happening and will happen. Psychics have the ability to communicate with those who have died and/or crossed over to the other side. Most of the time, psychics can also read auras and even minds.

My boyfriend Joe is a psychic.

When I first met Joe, I was 17 years old. He and I started dating when I was in high school. I always knew he was psychic because he would say certain things to me that only a psychic would say and they would make sense. I had a relatively traumatic childhood and Joe was able to see it without me telling him. As anyone would be, I was sublimely shocked that Joe knew certain things that I never told him let alone anyone else.

At first I was skeptic though. Why? Because the concept of seeing things that most people cannot see let alone hear is such a rarity, as less than 2% have the gift. So, therefore, it is only normal to question the validity of the gift itself. The psychic brain is fascinating though and upon independent research, I was able to realize psychic ability is very much real and alive. He would tell me about things that he believed would happen that eventually, in short, came true.

My boyfriend is constantly approached by spirits. One time he delivered a message to a young woman who lost her cousin a car accident. The cousin approached Joe to deliver the message to the cousin. The moment Joe spoke to this woman about her cousin who died, the woman was so touched and as a result, began to cry. It was very interesting to see Joe use his gift to help someone else.

My boyfriend has communicated with an array of spirits and has even channeled an array of individuals including Bobbi Kristina Brown, Jonbenet Ramsey, Caylee Anthony and even Morgan Ingram. Joe's abilities continue to grow the more he channels and communicates with spirits and the after life. It is so incredibly fascinating to me. His gift is surely something special, as he as a person is too.

Joe's gift is something so incredibly unique and I am very blessed, grateful and even honored to share my love and my life with such an amazing soul. Hello, my name is Sarah Afshar and my boyfriend is a psychic medium.

How to handle rumors about yourself that are not true

You can walk into the local cafe up the street and overhear a woman talking on her cell phone about the latest local loadie as you stand in line at your local grocery store listening to the two men argue over why an unidentified third party told them both a different story. At the end of the day, these are rumors.

Handling rumors is rather easy, but the hard part to accept is that not everyone is going to be believe you. Even after you have proved yourself from every level of your being, some people are still going to question the factuality of whether or not you are telling the truth.

So, how do you handle rumors about yourself that are not true?

You can a.) sit at home in front of the computer crying your eyes out, feeling sorry for yourself because of a lie a spiteful person created or you can b.) bring it up once, attempt to prove yourself by responding to the rumor, and simply let it go.

What would I do? - It's simple; I would simply bring it up once, respond to it, and simply let it go. I would either approach the person who created it or if it's something created using the internet; I would address it via blog and depending on the person or group who created it, I would simply ignore it. The worst thing you can do is feel sorry for yourself and get upset over someone's ignorance.

Think of it like this, those individuals who create rumors are lying to themselves and in denial of something. They will do what they can to devalue a person because they believe it can control the vast majority of status quo society's opinion. But the reality is, it is really just a waste of time and effort on their part. No one will believe them, especially if their weak character is evident.

There are quite a few rumors that I have had to endure from past to present and although I have set the record straight, it seems as if some people forget it and still continue to speculate and ignore my attempts to address them. I have come to the conclusion that lies created by third parties are nothing more than a representation of the person's weak decorum and actual persona. The rumors do not define me; however, it is clear they define the individual who created the rumor.

Dealing with rumors can be tough, but only if you allow them to be. Remember, there is no one in the world that knows you more than yourself. If you are going to allow another's lies about you, define you and who you are as a person let alone what you stand for, you are only hurting yourself. Look at the source. Treat those rumors as nothing, as they come from nothing because once you start allowing "nothing" to affect you and your life, you become them and that is definitely not a place you want to be.

How to cope with the holidays after a breakup

Let's face it, the holidays are often the toughest times of the year to endure a breakup. Trust me, I know, as I have been there. Emotionally there are just no words to describe how you feel, but evidently you are alone. You have the choice to feel sorry for yourself and look for reasons why the relationship failed or you can embrace the present and enjoy this special time with family, friends and over looked ones.

Is it possible to deal with the holidays after a breakup? Of course it is. If it were not, you would not see people who have experienced a breakup happy at all during the holidays, let alone moving on. The reality is coping with the holidays after a breakup is a hard thing to do especially if you were involved with the person for quite a while or in short, you really did love the person.

So, how do you cope with the holidays after a breakup?

First and foremost, you want to avoid feeling sorry for yourself at all costs. Overanalyzing what went wrong is pretty much equivalent to speaking to a wall and asking yourself why it is painted. Kind of like running on a treadmill at 10 mph for an hour and wondering why you are not going anywhere. Recognize that everything happens for a reason and avoid overthinking about everything around that reason.

Secondly, set goals for yourself and continue reaching out to the goals you had originally set when you were with your ex. Your goal is to focus on yourself. Embrace the concept of being single and work on yourself, as this is one of the best opportunities to do so. You know how you originally planned to do Christmas Shopping for Black Friday or celebrate Valentine's Day at your favorite eatery? Go alone or better yet, invite a girlfriend or two. Don't allow the person you are not with anymore stop you.

You want to avoid as much negativity as possible, as that is worse than being reminded that you are not with your significant other anymore. The holidays are all about being happy and implementing and embracing the good things they offer. It is very important to recognize the origin of the holidays and embrace for what they really are. Whether Hallmark or not, anyone can enjoy the holidays no matter what their status is.

You have the choice to sit at home sobbing over what went wrong while watching Sex & the City reruns (which isn't a bad thing, minus the sobbing) or you can recognize the good the holidays offer and enjoy them with family and friends. Life is way too short and exciting to allow one individual to affect it. Remember, every holiday is a memory breeding experience. Don't let the emotional distress ruin it.

The importance of personal space

You find yourself meeting the man and/or woman of your dreams. You end up falling for that person and after months of dating, you realize that a relationship has manifested as a result. Although everything seems to be going perfect, one day out of the blue you find yourself in a funk and can't explain why.
You continue contemplating and debating everything wrong with your present relationship as your mind overanalyzes everything, without looking at the bright side of the relationship. You, then, find yourself self-sabotaging and start to shut down. What exactly has happened here?
You start to weigh your pros and your cons and then come to realization that you need space. And not just any space, but personal space. When it comes to personal space, it is something we need in our lives. You can love someone for so long; however, if you are around them 24/7, you will start to begin to find negative in everything. What will happen? Eventually you will both go crazy and break up.
If you exclude personal space from your everyday life, you will not be able to accomplish those goals that you have been wanting to occur. If you are looking to get; for example, your certification in scuba diving, you won't be able to if you don't have the personal time to do so. If you exclude personal space, you will never have time for yourself.
The most important relationships we have are with ourselves because in the end, if we do love ourselves, we can rely less on others to do it. When you include personal space, you can love yourself and balance the love you have for your significant other. Almost like reciprocation. If you include personal space in your life, you will keep the relationship interesting.
You will give your significant other something to look forward to. For instance, you take a week to spend with family without seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend. You communicate sporadically through phone, text, etc. but you know that you are not going to physically see them for 7 days. Then, when you finally see each other the spark in your relationship is more flaming than the Olympic torch.
Space is fine, from time to time, but always remember without taking time out for yourself, you will never be able to accomplish anything. You may set goals and even accomplish few with your significant other, but in order to live effectively you need that perfect balance in every domain and aspect of your life. This is the importance of having personal space.

Friday, January 15, 2016

StoryTime: Hit by a car

It was a Tuesday afternoon. June 8, 2010 seemed like any other day, until my life changed forever. As an active volunteer of the local Humane Society, I wanted to use my free time to help them. I had off of work, so I took advantage of the day off. At around 1:20 pm MT I headed there to take pictures of the cats, so I could upload them online in an effort to get them adopted. 

The weather was quite warm yet sunny with a light breeze. I guess you could say it was a beautiful day. I lived about a half a mile (one-way) away from the shelter, so I decided to take my mountain bike. I felt this sense of anticipation, but never felt reluctant nor did I get a feeling something would happen which would ultimately change my life forever.

I decided to cross the road at an intersection which was nearly a few blocks away. Some days the shelter was busy, so the traffic at the intersection near the shelter is almost unpredictable. As I continued, I noticed a trailblazer. I didn't think much of this vehicle, until it hit me.  

One of my biggest fears in life was getting hit by a car. In fact, I had a nightmare a few months prior to this happening, that I was hit by a car. As she hit the gas to increase the velocity of the large SUV, without noticing me crossing, she struck me. I basically went flying into the air. My bike virtually busted in half instantaneously and I landed on my side, where I forced myself to get back up.

I felt as if all my emotions were wrapped around each other in a plethora of shock. The adrenaline was quite evident; however, when I looked at myself I was covered in hematoma bruises. The driver of the trailblazer was crying and didn't know what to do. She kept apologizing, as she was fidgeting. As I wiped away my tears, I looked at her and told her that I forgave her. 

I was so in shock. My only thought was "did this just happen?" A few people who drove by stopped to see if I was ok. About 5 minutes later, the police showed up followed by an ambulance. Apparently several people reported the accident, hence why they showed up so swiftly. I went in a car with a family member who showed up and went directly to the hospital where I limped into the ER. 

When you are in shock, you don't feel pain. In fact, it's almost as if you are a zombie with a lot of adrenaline. Almost a state of confusion, but being well aware of what just happened. I am not sure if my emotions were fighting each other, but as soon as I got into the hospital, I almost fell to the floor before crawling into the hospital bed. I have a high pain tolerance, so my rating was about an 8 out of 10. 

As the nurse hooked me up to an IV, I was given pain medication. If I can remember, it was Morphine. The pain kind of merged into shock and once again, I felt like a lifeless yet emotionless zombie. I knew I wasn't dying, but my mind was clear. I had to pinch myself to see if I was still alive because everything hit me all at once. I could only question - Did I get hit by a car? How did I get hit by an SUV? The only thing I could do at this point was be grateful that I survived because most people do not. 

Today, it is 2016. I have had to endure quite a few things since then, but nothing as big nor traumatic as this. I can honestly admit that I am stronger than ever and getting hit by the trailblazer has changed my life. How? I have learned to not only love my life, but appreciate it much more so. Hello world, my name is Sarah Afshar and I survived getting hit by a car.

10 reasons why I believe Morgan Ingram was murdered

As many of you are already aware, I have had the opportunity to interview Toni Ingram, the mother of Morgan Ingram, a beautiful and bright young woman from Carbondale, Colorado who was stalked and murdered in early December of 2011. When I was with Yahoo! Voices, I published the first interview in late November of 2012. In July of 2014, Yahoo! got rid of the Voices platform. As a result, all exclusive rights to the content I produced were reverted back to me, so I took it upon myself to publish it on this  blog. You can read the original interview here.

In April of 2014, a few months prior to the closing of Yahoo! Voices, I had the opportunity to speak with Toni again. I had a lot of questions, as does anyone who has garnered an interest in this particular case. A lot of things happened in that particular time frame and there was a gap between 2012 to 2014. You can read the second interview here. Then, in August I interviewed Morgan's brother Ryan who also shared some very interesting details with me. You can read that interview here.

1. Drug Levels - When looking at the toxicology reports, I noticed quite a few things that didn't make sense to me and one of them includes the amount of drug in her blood. Morgan Ingram had 7,909 ng of Amitriptyline in her blood stream. With 900-1,000 ng being considered "lethal" how can one explain the remaining 6,909-7,009 amount in Morgan's blood? You can listen to my podcast about this here.

2. Gastric Fluids - Morgan Ingram had an old prescription of Amitriptyline that expired over 2 years prior to her murder. When the bottle was found, only a few pills were missing from this particular prescription. Why is that? With 2,287,440 ng in Morgan's gastric fluids, it is impossible that the drug was from that particular bottle. Even if Morgan would have taken the entire bottle, it would not reach such a high amount. This is also explained in my part 1 podcast, which you can listen to here.

3. Date Rape Cocktail - The toxicology reports tell a story. A very tragic yet sad story of a woman who was murdered. When looking at them, I could not help but notice very small amounts of drugs. Upon research, I discovered that they are used frequently in a date rape cocktail. Why would Morgan Ingram have Cyclobenzaprine in her system? I also discussed this particular association in the podcast too.

4. Police Reports - When I first read the police reports, I noticed quite a few discrepancies. One of the major issues, problems per se that I had with the reports was only a few sentences for a month's work. At first, I assumed the detective on the case was lazy, but then I noticed that some of the paragraphs looked edited and changed. I also noticed that some of the sentences were unfinished and looked as if content was removed swiftly without checking for any errors.

5. Rape Kit - Saying "no sign of sexual trauma" does not mean rape kit nor does it mean a rape kit was ever done. For a young woman who was a victim of stalking, why was no rape kit administered? Was Morgan Ingram ignored by law enforcement? An unidentified mark was picked up by a blue light on Morgan's chest. Why was this ignored?

6. Autopsy Photos - The autopsy photos show strangle marks as well as, a swollen and bloody lip. The photos also show other unidentified marks on Morgan's face and body. Not only do the autopsy photos reveal signs of a struggle, they also prove that Morgan Ingram did not take her own life.

7. Street Clothes - When Morgan Ingram was originally found dead, she was discovered wearing street clothes. A light colored shirt with a black bra. She also wore jeans that she didn't wear often and they were unbuttoned too. What was the killer's intention exactly? The man who took Morgan's life obviously didn't want to go purchase a tarp late at night into early morning.

8. Refusal of Dr. Dobersen's opinion - The pathologist on this case changed the cause and manner several times before attempting to come to the hypothetical opinion that Morgan Ingram committed suicide and died of Porphyria. This, of course is so false. When Dr. Dobersen attempted to intervene and give is opinion of why he believes this is a homicide, the pathologist on this case refused and attempted to belittle Dobersen in the process. Why would he do that? Considering Dobersen's credentials outweigh his and he has more experience with these types of crimes too.

9. Rainer Jundt - Why did the detective and sheriff only interview a few people who knew Morgan Ingram? Why did they not speak with Rainer Jundt who knew her more than anyone other than Toni and Steve? Rainer had a lot to tell my boyfriend Joe in this exclusive interview.

10. Suicide Note - Morgan Ingram heavily embraced the arts. She loved singing, playing piano, painting, dancing and writing. If she intended to take her own life, don't you think you think she would have left a suicide note? She didn't leave a suicide note because she did not take her own life. She was not a suicidal person. Even her friends can vouch for that. You can read my interview with them here.

Note - If Morgan were to take any pills, don't you think she would have went for medication stronger than Amitriptyline? There are many things she could have taken. Think about it.

I have always had an interest in true crime. When I was a little girl, I would love to watch Unsolved Mysteries. The one with Robert Stack (RIP). Everything from the stories to Stack's haunting voice, the show was one of the greatest ever on television. And although my experience with this particular genre is quite new, I have still managed to research and discover that not everything is what it seems and that evil is very much alive and well in the world right now. You may disagree with what I have to say, as some of you may not be able to handle these facts and attempt to discredit me by spreading lies about me, but guess what? I don't care. Why? Because these are my reasons for believing that Morgan Ingram was murdered.

For more information about the stalking and murder of Morgan Ingram, please visit the official website today. Just click here.

Monday, January 11, 2016

RIP David Bowie

David Bowie was one of the greatest rock musicians ever. I remember when I was a little girl and I would hear his songs on the radio. Growing up as a little girl in the 90s, I was obsessed with the 80s station, where I discovered the song 'Modern Love'. I couldn't stop playing it on repeat and this tune remains a favorite until this day.
What I love about Bowie is that his sound was so incredibly unique and he was always true to who he was as an artist and as a person. And although he lost his battle with cancer, he will be forever remembered as one of the greatest rock acts of all time. He may be gone, but his music will forever remain.
To remember one of the most iconic rock stars, here is a list of some of my favorite David Bowie tunes.
2. Under Pressure (although this is technically more of a Queen song, this tune is just magic)
What are your favorites? Please do share in the comments. RIP David Bowie.

Saturday, January 9, 2016

5 tips for maintaining a healthy relationship

A relationship is simply a way two people live. It is more than just an association of two people or a link to love. It is process, so in spite of the adversity a relationship endures, there is always some sort of obstacle, some sort of tribulation that a couple will face. If you are dating Mr. Right and having a sexual "friends with benefits" kind of relationship, does this mean that your relationship will evolve into something more? Is a relationship really defined by romance? Is it possible to maintain a healthy relationship? Answer: Yes.

1. Love Yourself - It is scientifically proven that if you do not love yourself, you will never love someone else. Love is more than just physical, mental and social. It is emotional and spiritual too. Although letting someone into your life is always an amazing thing, especially if you feel like you love them, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Self-love and self-awareness will lock in love faster than anything. If you don't love yourself, how can you love someone else?

2. Understand Your Fears - As communication is one of the most important yet vital qualities of any healthy relationship, it is also important to understand and address any concerns you may have. What is holding you back? Do you feel like you don't trust your partner? If so, why not? Do you feel as if trusting your partner means losing your independence? Are you scared to be alone? Are you scared of getting hurt? Once you can answer your fears, you can move forward and not only enjoy your relationship, but maintain it effectively too.

3. Don't Over-Analyze It - Before I got back with Joe, I would over-analyze virtually every relationship I was in. As a result, my relationships never lasted long because I would intentionally find something wrong with them and as a result, they would end. It was not healthy. When you start to over-analyze any relationship, it is a sign that the relationship is either not meant to be, troubled or simply non-existent.

4. Reciprocate - Communication is so important to any relationship; however, in order to have any successful yet healthy one must give a little to get a little. After all, a mutual respect between two people is a beautiful thing. Remember, a relationship is not just about you. It is about you and the individual you are in a relationship with. The power of giving and receiving is such an amazing thing, as it is the perfect balance for any relationship. Treat your partner the same way you want to be treated and good things will happen.

5. Explore Explore Explore - Although it helps to explore your sexual desires, exploring is a lot more than just being intimate. Sure, having theme nights that lead into a little fun in the bedroom or shower is always exciting, but the power of exploring can involve everything from traveling to a new destination to trying a new restaurant and much more. The heart along with the love always grows fonder when there is more to a relationship than just intimacy.

Love should never be over-analyzed, as love should never hurt. And if love is everlasting, evergreen as well as, tried and true, it will last forever. When I was 17 years old, I fell in love with Joe and now at the age of 35, I fall more and more in love with him each and everyday. We started somewhere. If I can find my soul mate, my lover and my best friend, you can too.

Friday, January 1, 2016

Top 10 songs of 2015

When I look at the list of songs that have been released in 2015, I cannot believe how many great ones I have heard. I've listened to virtually every single one introduced this year because I love and appreciate all music. To be honest, it is very hard to choose a top 10 of the best songs I heard this year simply because it is so hard to choose and also because I've heard so many amazing tunes. What are the top 10 best songs of 2015?
I am missing quite a few songs; however, like every other top list, they would make a great top 20, top 30, etc. list. What are your top 10 favorite songs of 2015? Please do not hesitate to share your top 10. Happy New Year!

Happy New Year 2016

Happy New Year
Since today is officially the New Year, 2016, I think it's only admirable to acknowledge what 2015 has taught us and what we can learn in 2016. To me, 2015 was more than just another year. In fact, there have been many great things that I discovered and learned in 2015. 
Every new year is a brand new experience, a life lesson and a consequence to whatever action we decide to take. I have learned to expect the unexpected and appreciate every single moment as if it were your last, no matter how good or bad the moment is. I wake up every morning without expecting anything and yet I manage to experience some sort of reciprocation when the energy is light.
What I have learned year after year is that no matter how negative or hateful people are, no matter how big or small their lies are, and no matter what type of dark agenda they have - their words are to only be taken with a grain of salt, treated as nothing. Especially if you know those lies are not true. When nothing belittles you, spreads untrue lies about you or makes you feel like you are nothing, you eventually become them. If you choose to believe them, you become them. When you become them, you become nothing. Is that where you want to be? In the end, only the good is embraced, acknowledged and most importantly, remembered.
A wise woman (thank you Eleanor Roosevelt) once said: "Amazing minds talk about accomplishments, great minds talk about goals, average minds talk about events, and small minds talk about people." I believe this quote embodies reality.
What else have I learned?
I have learned the importance of balancing life in all domains and maintaining that balance without struggle or worry. How can you make personal time for you and your job? What about your job and a relationship? What goals have you set for yourself? What have you accomplished so far? If you are looking to read a great book, please do check out - Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life by Stewart Friedman. Definitely an amazing read that explains everything I am talking about.

With that said, I always find myself extremely thankful, grateful and blessed to be with my amazing boyfriend Joe. We have been through so much and yet our love for each other just continues to grow, evolve into something greater. (And Joe if you are reading, you are the love in my heart and the love of my life.)

Now, do I have any goals for 2016? Absolutely. Without the risk of boring you and listing them all, I will just say that I will continue to go upward and will continue to hold onto that mindset. I will also continue to support those who want to go up too instead of down. I will also continue to support those people that deserve recognition for their efforts and those people who are telling the truth. I believe 2016 is the year for quite a few things to "happen" so to speak.
An entire year has passed us. A year that is measured in 365 days. A year that is measured in 8,760 hours. And a year that is measured in 525,600 minutes. What does the future hold? As we live in the present, we can only celebrate right now. As we say goodbye to 2015, we say hello to 2016. A brand new dawn, a brand new day, a brand new life and a brand new year.
Happy New Year! 

Monday, December 28, 2015

Giant Plush Zebra by Melissa & Doug

My amazing boo Joe really went above and beyond this holiday season. As a man who is naturally wonderful and full of surprises, he surprised me this Christmas with this huge zebra from Melissa & Doug. As I am a huge lover of Nordstrom, we both saw this zebra there and of course, Joe knew how much I loved it so it was one of quite a few Christmas gifts to me from him this year.
They have an extensive selection of plush toys that are great for all ages. I actually just discovered this cheetah the other day, although I have to admit, I am a huge zebra fan so of course that is what made me gravitate towards the zebra more so.
Melissa & Doug also offers an array of other tools such as games and even personalized play. I know when I have children, I will definitely be buying quite a few things from this amazing toy brand.

The zebra is available now at Nordstrom for about $100. Since they are having their annual after Christmas sale, I am sure it has been marked down. To grab it before it's gone, just click here now.

Friday, December 25, 2015

Merry Christmas 2015

When I think of how the holidays were when I was a child versus now, a lot has changed. I believed in Santa for the longest time and assumed he was real until my mom finally told me he was a myth. I remember I would wake up early so excited to find presents under the tree. On December 23rd and Christmas Eve (the 24th) I would write several Christmas lists and place them all over the house. I would even leave cookies all over the house too hoping to get "Santa's" attention. I also believed the more cookies I would bake for Santa, the more presents I would get in return.  
Then, I would be so happy to see my grandmother (who is now deceased and has been for quite sometime, RIP) the early morning into the early evening of Christmas day. We would celebrate Christmas at her house, as it was a tradition. She would cook and my mom, aunts and other family members would join her in the kitchen. It was different then. Back then I was all about the presents, the food, the music and getting time off of school. The memories. I also knew the origin of Christmas, as it was the birthday of our father, Lord Jesus Christ.
Evidently, I appreciate a lot more now than just that.
In fact, what I love about the holidays goes beyond decorations that dangle on the tree, hearing Christmas music on virtually every radio station, bright white snow sinking into the earth's crust for the season or the gourmand scents that manifest the kitchen when cooking kringle. What l love about the holidays goes beyond opening gifts, enjoying time off from work to sleep in and sipping on classic grade A Moscato.
What I do love about the holidays, Christmas in particular, is living in the moment. Whether it means placing a new ornament on the tree, shopping for Joe or simply cooking a new recipe for the first time. I also love being surrounded by good energy. And by good energy, I mean by wonderful people. By those who I love and those who love me. The holidays are the time to not only love life, but appreciate every moment and memory breeding experience life offers, as if it were the last. Experiencing them is one thing, but sharing those experiences with wonderful people is always a blessing to me.
Everything has been the same since I can remember and yet every year there is "something" new and unique. Whether it is a new experience or even a memory created by another one. Nothing ever fades and that is the beauty of the holidays, of Christmas. To me, that is what this day is all about.
I hope you enjoy today, as I hope you are having a wonderful day. From my house to your house, Merry Christmas!